What fear does

Fear is part of most people's lives. To varying degrees. I have had quite a bit of fear in my life and many times when I have felt fear it seems to have brought what I was fearing into my life.

To live without fear is probably possible. I have not come to that point yet. But I am getting better at having less fear in my life. Earlier this year the college, where I work, was having to lay off several positions due to the financial situation in California. While this process was going on, I decided to control my fear and eliminate it the best I could. I felt very little fear and that might have helped in keeping my job at the school.

An example of fear pulling into my life what I was fearing happened many years ago. I was going to move in with a friend. We had known each other for a few years and I enjoyed having him as a friend. For some reason I started feeling fearful a couple of months before the move that he would meet someone - he and I were "just" friends and did not have a relationship. About a week after I had moved in, he met a woman who lived in the same area, they got involved and she got pregnant just a few months later. Some people might say that it would have happened anyway. I believe it happened for me to realize that fear pulls what you fear into your life. And that was a very clear example.

Right now I am in a situation where I need to make sure that I do not focus on fear as I believe that my name might have been "stolen." I am not sure about the extent of this yet, but I have already felt some fear that something bad might happen. Identity theft is very common here in the US and in other countries as well. The more I can focus on a positive outcome, the more likely it is that it will turn out that way. Fear will not lead to anything positive. Sometimes this is easier said than done though.

Fear is a powerful and sometimes overpowering feeling and emotion. It is possible though to decide not to focus on it and to focus on a more expansive and uplifting feeling instead. A lot has to do with making a decision what to focus on. Sometimes fear is a valid emotion and is actually helpful, but most of the time it is in the way of living a life from your heart.

Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting

Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting - one of the best books I have read.

It is funny, totally inspiring and can change your life. Lynn Grabhorn wrote this in 1999 and it became an immediate hit. It even appeared on the New York Times bestseller list.
What she talks about makes perfect sense and the stories from her own life, that are a big part of this book, show that she is really on to something. This book is about attracting what you want into your life and how to do that.

Most "self-help" books discuss how to think and have positive thoughts. Lynn talks about having positive feelings. There is a big difference and an important one. Thoughts are important, but it is our feelings that really set things in motion.

Most of us have a tendency to focus on the negative and the lack of things. That focus creates emotions and feelings that will attract people, things, situations, etc that are on a similar "wavelength." The trick is to shift the focus to what feels uplifting, exciting and positive. It would seem to be the most natural thing in the world to do, but for most people it is something that takes quite a bit of practice.

I can do this at certain times but still haven't mastered this to only have in my life what I really want. I know though that it works as I have seen the results in my life quite a few times. Results that come from positive as well as negative feelings. When you start noticing this, it is very empowering. This book made it clear to me, without a doubt, that I am responsible for what I have in my life. I cannot really blame anyone. :)

Lynn Grabhorn passed away a few years ago but her books (she has written several books) are still "going strong." Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting is definitely a book that I would recommend to anyone and it can be re-read many, many times.

Follow Your Heart

To follow your heart can be quite a journey. The journey will take you beyond your logical mind and it will probably also challenge some of your fears.

When you follow your heart you follow something "higher" and more expansive than your personal self. There are probably as many ways of knowing what it feels like to follow your heart as there are people.

It is not really possible to explain how to follow your heart, or your gut feeling. It is a very personal experience. My experience is that I get a feeling inside of me that has a certain "tone" and when that happens I know I am on the right track.
It can take some practice to distinguish this from other emotions, but after a while it will become easier and easier.

The biggest "challenge" might be to learn to trust these feelings. It took me quite a while to fully understand that they could guide me very well through life.

After having practiced this for +20 years I have come to trust my heart and intuition and I dare to follow the feelings I get. And today this seems to be the only way I can live my life.

For many years my dad and I translated books from English to Swedish (I am originally from Sweden) and published them. One wonderful book that we translated and published is Lee Coit's "Listening - How to Increase Awareness of your Inner Guide." It explains in an easy to understand manner how to access and follow your intuition. A great guide to aid in following your heart.

Welcome!

I am so glad that I can welcome you to this blog where I will share topics that are all about expanding possibilites. Hopefully you will find something that will spark your interest.

For the past +20 years I have been on a magical journey following my heart. What I have come to realize over the years is that it is really up to me what kind of life I want.
Things usually do not just happen without a reason. What I have in my life right now is the result of my own feelings and beliefs. Some people might say that it does not work that way. I believe it does.

I want to share some of the things that have become a part of my life. I also look forward to your comments, thoughts, and questions.

Welcome to a magical journey!